We will never be able to live the kind of life we want if we do not take control of our life.
The first step in taking control of your life is by setting goals each step of the way. This is the edge successful people have over others.
They set goals that will guide them towards the kind of life they want to live and work tirelessly towards realising those goals.
If you are on a mission to succeed you must first know where you are going to.
People are not lazy. They simply have impotent goals – that is, goals that do not inspire them – Tony Robbins –
Most people who are struggling with achieving their dreams do so not because they do not work hard, but because they work without a sense of direction towards realising their life goal and end up being frustrated when they end up not realising their dreams.
When we prepare for a journey, to guarantee safety we plan every step right from the departure to arrival in order for us to reach our destination safely, so also should we plan every step we take in life.
Once you begin to take control of your life by setting goals and working towards realising them, you begin to realise your dreams.
To take control of your life, you will need to come to terms with the realities involved in achieving your long-term goals, which are centred around your
Once you can come to term with what is required of you when pursuing your dreams, then set goals that will take you closer to realising your dreams.
How to set realistic goals.
1. Work out what you want in life
To better assist you in working out what you want from life you’ll have to define what your purpose is in life. Defining your purpose in life is not an easy task and a way out will be to first answer these 2 questions.
– Who am I?
To help get a better perspective of who you want to be and better answer this question, write down a short essay about yourself, do not include personal information like your name, qualification, biography, and other information you use in introducing yourself to others. Describe yourself in relation to your likes, your strengths and your weaknesses.
– what do I want to be remembered for?
What will be your contribution to making yourself and the people around you better?
Again write down what you wish to contribute to the development of mankind that will make people remember you when you are no more alive.
While working out what you want in life, remember to focus your thoughts on a life that is
- Filled with meaning
- Filled with satisfaction
- where personal and family relationship brings love and happiness to your life
- where you can grow spiritually and mentally
- where you get to do the things that please you
2. Stick to goals that relate to how you see yourself.
People will not always agree with your choices, do not ignore yourself and try to please them, you are the only person you must try your best to please.
Once you know what’s important to you devote all your creative energy to pursuing it.
If your goals and your commitment to realising them give you a feeling of accomplishment or of doing something worthwhile then you need not worry about what anyone else thinks just focus on the goals that help you find peace of mind, happiness and takes you closer to where you want to be in life.
3. Write down your goals and set deadlines for accomplishing them.
A good way to prepare yourself for a life of achievement is to pen down what you wish to achieve and set a definite deadline for when you mush have accomplished them.
People with clear, written goals, accomplish far more in a shorter period of time than people without them could ever imagine – Brian Tracy –
When we set out to do something without a laid down plan we usually don’t get the desired results. With all that we have to deal with in our lives daily, it is easy to lose track of our goals and writing them down in our own writing and setting a particular date for getting it done helps remind us of what’s important to us at that point in time.
4. Break down your goals into small achievable objectives.
If you keep looking at your goals as a big dream chances are it will remain a big dream.
People are remarkably bad at remembering long lists of goals. I learned this at a professional level when trying to get my high-performance coaching clients to stay on track; the longer their lists of to-dos and goals, the more overwhelmed and off-track they got. Clarity comes with simplicity – Brendon Burchard-
Take control of your journey in search of success by breaking down your goals into
- Short term goals – This is (are) what you wish to achieve in the next 3 t0 6 months
- Medium term goals – What you wish to achieve in a year or 2
- Long term goals – What you wish to accomplish 5 years from now
Once you know what’s important to you, depending on the urgency, set out objectives that will help you to realise your goals.
The easiest way to realise your goals is to break them down into bits of easily achievable objectives to better assist you in achieving your goals.
take a look at this example to get a better picture;
Goal: To finish the semester without any carryovers.
- Attend all lectures 4 the remainder of the semester.
- Spend more time in d room studying instead of roaming about.
- Use the library and study rooms more often to aid concentration.
- Try and do assignments by myself.
- Go to bed early and study at night.
5. Develop a do-ers mindset.
To Be the kind of person you want to be, you are going to have to work for it.
The fact is only you can bring the necessary commitment required to realise your goals. Whatever circumstance you may find yourself in life, you have the ability within you to change your circumstances for good.
People who concentrate all their creative energy towards realising their set goals usually achieve their goal or end up still doing something meaningful with their lives.
Take for example Microsoft founder Bill Gates, Gates didn’t seem like he was made for success after dropping out of Harvard and starting a failed first business with Microsoft co-founder Paul Allen called Traf-O-Data. While this early idea didn’t work, Gates’ later work did, creating the global business empire that is Microsoft. So also American auto giant
So also American auto manufacturer Henry Ford, While Ford is today known for his innovative assembly line and American-made cars, he wasn’t an instant success. In fact, his early businesses failed and left him broke five times before he founded the successful Ford Motor Company.
6. Evaluate your progress in relation to your goals.
Many of us are always busy doing things that would not help us realise our life goals, and a better way to measure our proximity to where we want to be in life is to occasionally review our progress and see if we are headed in the right direction towards realising our goals.
If you find out you have missed a step, set out a plan to get back in the right direction. When you do something worthwhile or reach your goal aways reward yourself for your achievement this helps boost your self-confidence and push you to do more.
7. Always set new goals.
Goals after goals, always set new goals after completing your present goals.
One way to keep momentum going is to have constantly greater goals.
– Michael Korda –
The fact is that there will always be something that needs your attention- bills to pay and necessities to attend to. We cannot live a life that does not challenge us.
we can only run away from making the decision that would make our lives better but we cannot avoid it.